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Troubled Teens and Holidays

For parents who've had troubled teens living at home, the holidays are usually filled with mixed emotions.  As the holidays approach, parents hope the seasons and celebrations will bring out the best in their troubled teen like in the days past when as children they wanted to be their best selves for Santa, but often they holidays only amplify the problems the family faces.  On “normal” days or in “normal” months, most families are already stretched to the limit with things to be done, problems to be solved, and needs to be met.  Holidays add another layer of expectations, commitments, chaos, and business.  Financial stresses are magnified and at times it feels like every family member is at their breaking point.

Even with all of this going on, we can choose to change our expectations, make our own choices of what is important and necessary, and look at it all from the perspective of “it is what we make of it.”

Keeping things simple, realistic, and positive, especially when balancing the needs of little children, troubled teens and other family members is important.

Dr. Mayer talks about troubled teens and the holidays, offering a unique approach to making things work for everyone.

 

Originally from : http://webtalkradio.net/internet-talk-radio/2013/11/25/troubled-teens-the-fix-the-hollerdays-are-here-again/

In this lively, sharing and yet highly instructive broadcast Dr. Mayer calls for us to change our approach to the Holidays. They don’t have to be the HollerDays like they have deteriorated to become in most families. We seem to brace ourselves for the worst in families as we approach the holidays and the media loves to jump in on sensationalizing the holidays as full of stress and tension and all the bad about families. Let’s be positive about the holidays again. We can do this if we follow the overriding principle of Dr. Mayer’s: If it is not Fun you’re Done! Don’t force you and your family into negative situations and events.

The holidays only make it tougher when seeking treatment for troubled teens.

When I realized that I needed to find help outside my home for my son, I dreaded the upcoming holidays on one hand, but had hope that somehow he would change on the other.

As Thanksgiving drew closer and I was still researching residential treatment centers in Utah, making calls, and scheduling visits, I dreaded the idea that maybe my research would be complete and my decision made before the holidays were here.  I knew he need help that I couldn't provide, but also hoped the magic of the season would be enough to make it all go away.  I hated the idea of having him live away from home during the holidays.  I worried that he would hate me for not waiting.  It was a tough decision, but I knew that treatment needed to be the priority over my feelings, and I also knew from past experience that he didn't want to be at home or with family anyway.  His new “friends” were all that mattered and the dangerous “fun” they were having.

These concerns were added to the list of questions and concerns I would address with the residential programs I would be soon visiting.  As I visited the programs I was able to ask about what they did for the holidays, what Thanksgiving would be like, a typical Christmas day, and birthday.

Every program is different in the way they approach the holidays with their students, so it's important to ask about these special days and ask the students themselves when visiting what they thought and how they felt spending the holidays in residential programs.  The students I talked to in each program said that of course they would rather have been home, but their experience away from home only made them more appreciative of the importance of family and loved ones.

Good Residential Treatment Centers for Troubled Teens.
Are there such things?

If you’ve spent any time searching the Internet for answers, you may begin to wonder – no you WILL begin to wonder if they exist.

That’s why Parent-Advocacy.org was founded.  To help parents find the truth on the Internet that will help them find the help they so desperately need when they face losing their child to drugs, alcohol, suicide, or other self destructive behaviors.  You’re not alone.  We’ve been there.

Our mission it to help uncover the truth to help you choose for yourself, and to defend your right to choose what you feel is best for your family.  Our job is not to recommend any particular residential treatment center, program, school or otherwise – that is for you to decide.  If you’re in the beginning stages of looking for professional help outside your home we hope the resources we provide will help you know that you’re not alone, and feel confident that despite what the anti-parent activists will tell you, there are good (even great) schools and programs out there – you just need to be able to go to the real, reliable, and authentic sources that govern these schools and the professionals they employ.  They will tell you the truth.

Advertising, marketing, activism on the Internet is rampant with false claims of good AND bad, no matter what is being discussed – there are always opposing sides to any argument.

For proof, you have to look no further than to search the Internet for information on your own religion or political party.  Do it now, you’ll see what I mean.  It’s ugly, hurtful, and disheartening – no matter what your beliefs may be.

We hope you’ll do your own due diligence as you search for the help you need.  We will provide resources and commentary on our experiences getting help for our teens in trouble and the truth about the p

rograms or schools we have actually visited or enrolled our own kids in.

We invite parents searching for answers to read through this website for help, and for those who have already gone through the process, we invite you to share your experiences and results with those whose shoes you were once in.

Just us the contact us form and let us know about your experiences.  Please give us enough information about yourself and your story (good or bad) so that we can ensure what we post is really from parents that have used the services of real residential treatment centers and not activists, competitors of a particular organization, etc.

We will do our best to validate the information we get before it is posted.  We are looking for the truth, not unsubstantiated claims.  If you have supporting proof, citations, links, etc. please post them as well.

Thank you!

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Good Residential Treatment Centers?

Good Residential Treatment Centers for Troubled Teens.  Are there such things?

If you've spent any time searching the Internet for answers, you may begin to wonder – no you WILL begin to wonder if they exist.

That's why Parent-Advocacy.org was founded.  To help parents find the truth on the Internet that will help them find the help they so desperately need when they face losing their child to drugs, alcohol, suicide, or other self destructive behaviors.  You're not alone.  We've been there.

Our mission it to help uncover the truth to help you choose for yourself, and to defend your right to choose what you feel is best for your family.  Our job is not to recommend any particular residential treatment center, program, school or otherwise – that is for you to decide.  If you're in the beginning stages of looking for professional help outside your home we hope the resources we provide will help you know that you're not alone, and feel confident that despite what the anti-parent activists will tell you, there are good (even great) schools and programs out there – you just need to be able to go to the real, reliable, and authentic sources that govern these schools and the professionals they employ.  They will tell you the truth.

Advertising, marketing, activism on the Internet is rampant with false claims of good AND bad, no matter what is being discussed – there are always opposing sides to any argument.

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For proof, you have to look no further than to search the Internet for information on your own religion or political party.  Do it now, you'll see what I mean.  It's ugly, hurtful, and disheartening – no matter what your beliefs may be.

We hope you'll do your own due diligence as you search for the help you need.  We will provide resources and commentary on our experiences getting help for our teens in trouble and the truth about the programs or schools we have actually visited or enrolled our own kids in.

We invite parents searching for answers to read through this website for help, and for those who have already gone through the process, we invite you to share your experiences and results with those whose shoes you were once in.

Just us the contact us form and let us know about your experiences.  Please give us enough information about yourself and your story (good or bad) so that we can ensure what we post is really from parents that have used the services of real residential treatment centers and not activists, competitors of a particular organization, etc.

We will do our best to validate the information we get before it is posted.  We are looking for the truth, not unsubstantiated claims.  If you have supporting proof, citations, links, etc. please post them as well.

Thank you!

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